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| Zooey Deschanel |
Flakiness (ie: unreliable): to be blown off in a really lame way, often accompanied by an awful excuse.
So, I really need to tell a friend thank you. She's one of my closest friends, and because of her, I think I have a better life.
She was the one who taught me that flakiness was not a good characteristic in a friend.
I have to admit, I used to be a little flake-y in high school. To me, it just didn't seem like a big deal and no one would miss me if I wasn't there. Boy, do you realize how wrong this is when the tables are turned around. For example, I bet you anything you could name all the people that attended your wedding, last birthday party, recital, etc. I'm not talking about the ones that didn't attend it. It's the ones that said they would, and flaked. Those are the ones you have to watch out for (but the ones that didn't attend due to lame excuses aren't so hot either).
It just shows immaturity (through irresponsibility) and kind of tells you how important they really think of you. Come on, you think that if it was their boyfriend's birthday, they would flake? Now I'm not saying that the boyfriend and the friend are on the same level, but it's just to put it into perspective.
Ever since I had my eyes opened to all these friends that continuously flaked, I realized what a waste of time and energy it was to try to plan something with them. And eventually, I stopped expecting them to keep their word and wasn't disappointed. And soon after, they became less dependable in my eyes and I would become distant. I mean, can you depend on waves being the same size every-time?
In a friend, I think you definitely want someone who isn't flake-y because that just shows so much of their character. I try really hard not to flake with my close friends because I know they won't on me (unless they have a good reason) which brings me to another point, why do people use excuses they think are good enough..when in fact it's so lame? How are "I'm too sleepy" or "I'm hanging out with my boyfriend" or "I don't feel like going anymore.." good excuses? Just say "I'm really lame, don't keep my promises, and don't think you're that much of a priority to sacrifice anything for even though we had made plans before."
I don't know, lately people have been flaking and it's not backed up by any substantial excuse. It's just so lame.
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